Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Karyn, there is nothing wrong with dating multiple men - I just don't know how you find the time!
DF, so you have been with no insurance? How does that work? Does the new job have to take us if we have been without insurance? I fear I may lose my job soon and I would be unable to do Cobra.
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I have been without since November. I had no choice, unfortunately. Yes they have to cover me, but I don't know how the whole pre-existing stuff works.
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My Gosh, you had to pay for your last NOLA procedure?? Or is that considered part of the original "reconstruction"? So when I get my nips, if I have no insurance, will that be considered part of the first surgery?
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No, I got a great grant from a place in NOLA that covered my costs! I am not happy with my nips
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DF - at least you have them. I'm still nipless
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DF, that is wonderful you got a grant! Sorry you are not happy with them, but it's pretty soon - maybe you can call them if you still are not happy down the road....? Karyn, I'm nipless, too. Can't wait to get them!
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I mine as well be they're hardly there. They shrunk down to almost nothing
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DF - I don't even have a tatoo.... I havent decided if I want a lift on the good side yet which would change the latitude of the tatoo
K
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DF, I hear it is common for much protrustion to be lost - maybe when your insurance kicks in you can go to someone local and they can do a nip with alloderm (or so I've read)? Did they do skate flap on you?
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I know, and I almost didn't do it because of this fearless. I think they look worse now pretending to be nipples, than with nothing there. I don't know what they did, but I have an incision now across the middle of my new boobs and these little itty bitty nipples that flatten if I even wear my swimsuit, or a bra etc.. I don't know about the alloderm?
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Could you do an injection of one of the fillers that are being used?
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I don't know anything about those???
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The same stuff that people inject to smooth out wrinkles - like Juvederm
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Alloderm can be used to give longer lasting "protrusion". If you go to www.breastreconstruction.org under "nipple reconstruction" you will also see a whole section on the use of alloderm. I currently have alloderm, but as a "sling" for my implant, since I have had rads. I had no allergic reaction whatsoever.
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This thread has been quiet lately. Does that mean no one is finding love?
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I don't think it is the cards for me guys. The guy I met on match was a dud, and no one else seems to be interested in me. Sometimes it gets to me and sometimes I am okay with being alone. I am so grateful to have my beautiful children and my grandbaby and one on the way and my loving siblings. And sometimes I think I who needs someone to have to compromise with! Putting it in God's hands. xo
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lovemyfamilysomuch read my mind! I'm on a couple different sites, no one replies to me, no one is interested. I do fine, stay busy with my daughter, friends, new job etc... so it's not so bad. But when I see couples, or hear about a friend that met a guy it does make me sad to a point.
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Dragon, I haven't given up on you. You will meet someone. My grandchildren love me unconditionally. I have so much fun with them
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I wish I shared your same optimism hrf! Sadly, I just don't think it's in my cards. We'll see over time...
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DF, one or two guys and you are giving up? That doesn't sound like you! Lovemyfamily, I had horrible luck on match. I met a lot more quality guys on EH.
I am not dating until my recon is over, so I won't have anything to report for awhile. I just want to feel really good when I embark on that road again.
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It's not that only over 1 or 2 guys, it's just that there are NO others really out there it seems. I was on match for a few months before the loser guy even responded to my email. No one responds, why is that? No on initiates either? I just don't get why they're on those sites? Plus the thought of telling someone about the BC and starting all over doesn't really interest me. Not right now anyway.... who knows in a month or 6 months from now.
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I don't know why no responses. You are beautiful. I just know that I met some nice guys on there. I met losers, too, but I remember one guy that I blew off and looking back, I don't even know why. He was very sweet. But if you are not interested in dating, that's a different story.
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A number of years ago I was on Match and met a number of guys but nothing that turned into anything. So for fun today, I thought I'd take a look --- it's mostly all the same guys who were there 4 years ago. And I know one of them is married. I was just window shopping anyway - no dating in my foreseeable future
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Hi girls~
I was diagnosed 2 months after leaving my marriage of 20 years. That was almost 7 yrs ago. I was nervous enough about dating again after 20 yrs, then add a bald head and unreconstructed lumptectomy to the mix and I was terrified. But I got on Match in 2005 (a yr after tx) and met a great man. We dated for almost 5 years, before breaking it off 14 months ago.
I signed up on eHarmony in Mar of this year and have been on dates (mostly "a date") with 13 different men since then.
None of them have worked out, (the most dates I had with one guy was 4) but I am not giving up and I will not settle!!hrf - I can't believe the same dudes are on match that were there 4 yrs ago! I wonder if they are STILL looking, or are looking again? I know my ex BF got back on match after we broke up, but some are probably still on. Interesting....
Anywho - I believe there is someone out there for each of us, we just haven't met him yet.
Keeping the faith,
Donna
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Donna, I believe that, too - and I do know couples who met their bf/gf on dating sites, so I know it can happen. Some women on this site said they met their spouse on-line.
It's just that you have to weed through a lot, that's all. And you get discouraged. But I'm sure they do, too....there are a lot of women who are gold-diggers, married, etc - so I think men can have a hard time with on-line dating, too.
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I wish I knew why no responses fearless, it's very discouraging honestly. I know it's not just me, like I said I have 3 or 4 friends on the same sites and they don't get responses either.
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I have been on eHarmony for 5 months and hardly even get a match anymore. Guess I've been through the Tulsa metro plus NW Arkansas and part of KS.
And often the guys I'm interested in don't reply back, it can be frustrating for sure.
Donna
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I'm still not giving up and neither shoud any of you lovely ladies. We are suvrivors for God's sake! We appreciate things that others don't. Any man would be blessed and lucky to have us!!
Donna
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I admire your optimism, Donna.
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Some days I relate to the optimism Donna is talking about, others I think wth is wrong with me? Just the game of life I suppose. Always want what you can't have.
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