Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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I just also don't have time for another job right now, that job being looking for a needle in a hay stack AKA good man
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It is my opinion that he was too young for you. He is probably dating 30 year olds. Not saying that had anything to do with what happened, just that maybe you should be dating guys in their early 40's (you are 38, right?). But obviously you know what you want better than I do...just offering my opinion..
If I am honest with myself, I have to agree with you that there is not someone for every single person.
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I am 34 as well, but isn't it rumored boys mature slower?
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Sorry, I thought you had said 38 in another post. Sheesh, I have a memory like a sieve lately! Still, with that being said, I still think early 40's is a good age for you. I would say even older, but many young women don't like the idea of dating men much older than themselves. I'm weird, I always was drawn to men a little older than me.
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Im ok with a few years older. I think my limit would be 10 years, but who knows. Just depends on the guy, and situation. I'm not dead set on any age is what I'm saying in a rambling sort of way
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Yeah, 10 years is about my max, too. But I would be flexible depending on the guy. I will not date younger. Perhaps that is closed-minded, but I just have no interest in a younger guy. Maybe it's partly an ego thing.
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I have many other things that are a priority. At this point a sugar daddy would work!
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Lol! Me, too! I am SO not kidding!
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Ok maybe I'm only partially kidding
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I'll take a sugar daddy as well. At this stage I don't think age is a factor for me. It's about the person, not the age
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Well, for me, I am looking to get married and settle down, and I don't see that happening with a man 10 years my junior, for example.
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each person has their preferences, what they're looking for and won't tolerate. Fearless I understand where you're coming from, you've never been married.
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Hope everyone is having a good weekend with or without male company.
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Without male company all the way
Yesterday was my work company picnic at the waterpark. We had a blast! Then I had to drop my daughter off because my ex was getting married. So far that's about it for me. How about you ladies? 0 -
Dragonfly, how do you feel about the ex getting married? Are you okay?
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Honestly I don't care. We hated each other the last couple of years we were married, and have been divorced for 3 or 4? I do see him for who he really is, and am blown away that she has yet to see this. He's not a catch, he's lazy, a major liar, he lie's about everything, she cheated on her husband, not sure if it was with my ex or what but they're a pair.
Anyway this weekend was wedding... I said the only way she could go do the rehearsal and dinner was if they picked her up and brought her home. Friday they picked her up around 4, she calls me at 5:30 or so and said they were in an accident but she was fine. Apparently his winner Mom was driving, and the sun got in her eyes and she ran into some wall or planter thing? I guess enough that the car had to be towed. So then she was supposed to be home by 7:30 and around 8 I sent her a text and said are you on your way? Around 8:30 she called and said, can you come get me? I of course would but I said um... why? No one there can bring you? So all of a sudden his bride to be could bring her home. Strange... Then today he asked me to have her to some address in Sublimity by 3:00. I pull up at 3:00 on the dot, don't see their car so I text him and say we're here, where are you? Waited about 5 minutes or so, no answer. So I called him, he said they were still at their house and to go ahead and leave her here in Sublimity. It was some friends of theirs house, Mackenzie's been there once. I said um... HELL NO!!! I don't know these people, you're not here, she's not staying here. I said I will bring her to your house don't go anywhere. Then after I dropped her off with him I called and said by the way, can I have an estimate of what time to pick her up. He said no later than 7:15 he figured. So at 6:30 Mackenzie calls me and says she'd be ready by 7:00. So I head from my parents in Stayton over to Sublimity about 6:45 and text to say I'm on my way. No answer. Then I text again and say I'm here... no answer.... Finally he texts and says he needs 30 more minutes. WTH? Then Mackenzie called me and was telling me it would be another 30, I said this is crazy I came because you guys told me you'd be ready. So he walks out to the car in his fancy tux, and asks to please give him a little more time, they haven't had the precious father daughter dance. GAG ME are you kidding? It's 95 out and I'm sitting here, and he wants me to wait for 30 so they can dance? I said you're insane, he says can't you go get an ice cream cone or something??? Really? Am I 4? No way I said I'm not leaving, hurry it the hell up and send my kid out! I of course made some comment about him being such a jerk to my friend I was on the phone with. He then flips me off. Real classy move. I am so fed up with his total lack of planning and consideration really ticks me off! So glad it's over.....
Not another word from the boy by the way.... guess he was just congratulating me on the job with no other intentions.
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OMG, I have no children, but I can still say he sounds terribly irresponsible! I can't believe they were going to leave her with those people! I would have blown a gasket! Yeah, it's strange. A guy can be a total loser, but he will still be able to get women. I think it's harder for women to meet men so they tend to "settle", perhaps. I know I have dated men in my youth and I look back and think OMG! What was I thinking!!!! We put up with a lot of crap to not be lonely sometimes, I think.
Hey,about The Boy - who knows what's going on. But I still think you were special to him, despite his cowardly parting.
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I agree we do put up with a lot. The boy being a good example. I gave him so many chances to get his act together. I dont expect to hear from him again.
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You were very good to him. I doubt he will forget that. I don't know what happened, but he had seemed to enjoy being with you. He'll resurface - probably about the time you have met someone else!
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Too bad it's the kids who suffer when the parent is a jerk. Your daughter is lucky to have you as a stabilizing force in her life. I think sometimes the men send those congratulatory message to relieve their own guilt.
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Well time will tell fearless, I figure if he was going to he would of by now. You could be right HRF, I tried to understand him before and was never successful. I have a good life, was willing to let him in but it wasn't meant to be.
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DF, I meant to ask you - is that how your hair grew in after chemo? It looks so soft and pretty. Mine still looks like pubic hair on my head. I'm getting really tired of it and can't afford a Keratin straightening.
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Mine grew in slow it seemed. It was a little wavy at first then I just kept trimming it, I never did anything special to it, but its good now. When was your last chemo?
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I'm 18 months out. But I haven't been trimming it.
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Try doing that a little. I had my last treatment 2 years ago???
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Dragon and I finished around the same time, if I recall correctly... I've had all the chemo hair cut off and now my hair is better than ever. I use Aveno (cheap) products. My is longer than my picture and I'm a little over 2 years out.
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I am also just 2 years out but I have permanent hair loss. Not only did it not grow fully back, but now it's falling out. The hair I do have is very damaged and it's not possible to style it. I've already been to a couple of doctors. That's just one more reason for me not to try meeting new guys. I'm very uncomfortable and embarrassed. I used to have great hair.
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Kward, but your hair looks soft and straight now. Is that how it came in after chemo? Or was it frizzy/curly?
Hrf, what about hair growth stuff like Rogaine? I don't know anything about that, but I hear it does work....I don't know if Rogaine would have any side effects.....
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Mine did come in wavy/curly but it was always soft.
Ok ladies.... I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. Not sure why? I've been debating on messaging him and saying go and that miss him or that he's been on mind. probably a dumb move and open up a whole bunch more heart ache again. I don't know why he's got a hold on my heart and mind still
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Dragonfly, it's just because you are alone. Do not contact him! You mind is focused on him because there is no other guy in your life right now. It's okay to miss him - but I don't think you should contact him.
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