2013 Survivors!!!
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wow listing it all really lays it all out there-everyone has been through so much. Sometimes it just doesn't seem real. Other than my husband, and my sibling and 2 out of town friends no one knows of my cancer or what I have been through. Alot of times I am glad I've not let it out there to everyone because I am sure I would have gotten some very stupid comments about it. But there are other times when I wish I could tell others maybe for a selfish reasons- a little of their sympathy for what I've gone thru, their love and reassurance. Also it would have been great to have shared it with cousins who have gone thru the same thing except that they had their moms to go thru it with them and to give them motherly love and assistance. I asked alot of people if they would mind if we cancelled our gift exchanges this year because I'm "just not into it". They probably all wonder when the heck I became such a grinch. I will be having our traditional holiday dinner as I have the last 35 years as if nothing is new or has changed. But since I haven't wanted to upset my very senior aged Dad and aunts, I haven't shared it with any of them or anyone else for fear it would get back to them. So you can only imagine how important sharing all this has been with all of you has been for me because in my everyday life, all of this is a big secret. I thank the good Lord everyday for you. Thank you all for listening and sharing this year. I love you all. Juneau that is great about the hair. I hope everyone has a very blessed holiday. Isn't survival grand!
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Happy Holidays to all of you and a very healthy, prosperous, and joyful 2013. I want to thank all of you for your kindness and support for this difficult year that I have gone through. It will be a year since my BC diagnosis and hoping that 2013 will be a great one for all. I wouldn't have been able to do this without you all!!
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Juneaubugg - Sounds like you got the best holiday gift possible - hope! Wishing a wonderful holiday to all. We're still a week away from turning the page on the calendar to 2013 but I'm guessing you're all looking forward to it as much as I am. My hope for 2013 for all of us - peace, joy, health, and an appreciation for every day's blessings and opportunites.
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2fried- that is really hard that no one know what you have been through! I guess each of us have our on way of dealing with BC but the sharing was the most healing for me because I had friends and family who had never had a mammogram and because in a way I had always been invincible to health problems etc I think sharing my journey with people helped them in some way to take a look at live different and that it was precious. At times I probably shared too much but I am a pretty open person. The support and love I got back was a lot of what got me through my crappy days. I am really glad you had everyone here to hold your hand and you could come to this safe place and vent, cry and share! Merry Christmas!
Juneau - I completely understand about the hair! Cry away! It is healing
this stuff sucks and as much as I try to wake up each morning with a positive attitude the pain is getting almost in bearable. It needs to go away! I feel like I am 90 years old with a bad case of arthritis:( I agree.. "who am I" because right now I am not sure who this person is anymore.
So I am trying hard to get motivated for Xmas with my family and have some fun but dam I can not pull myself out of this funk! What is wrong with me? I should be celebrating and living but I feel numb and in this fog! Maybe Coffee will help and some pain Meds!
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Juneau: like mcoock says 'cry away'... its good for the soul. My Mum always said to me even as a kid... you laugh when you want to, why not cry... she's a real tear drop tilly.
I did want to drop in and say Thank you to all you wonderful, crazy ladies. 2012 brought us so much shock and horror and fear - but we got through it and we got through it together. I am so happy to have been able to share our journey whether that be laughing, crying, yelling, comforting, supporting - whatever form it has taken we have been able to get through this together because we all get it. I love each and every one of you and am grateful for our friendships we have formed.
I wish you health and happiness always and hope you spend time this Christmas (whether you celebrate or not !) with people who mean the most to you.
Here's to us Ladies - I will be raising a glass of wine (or 2 - the other being for Juneau) in our honour.
Love you all xxxxxxx
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Ok whose going where for a "reunion" in 2013? Lets plan something where we can meet in the middle?? What do you ladies think? Maybe around some type of walk or BC event??
I'm jumping I the shower now. I think I might use CONDITIONER on my hair, say what?! 😁😋
Then when I get out I'm going to putz around in my bathrobe so I don't get suicidal trying to wrestle into clothes that no longer fit! I'll deal with that later. (Mcook; that's what makes me FEEL tge feelings begind being so changed by all of this. When I see concrete things that I can't do or wear. *sighs*
I invited my mom to spend the night tonight. That's sorta huge. First of all my family is Jewish so we don't do anything (my husband isn't Jewish, but he's working until six- retail). My step father had a small stroke two weeks ago and is in a rehab place until next week; so I didn't want her home alone and sad. BUT this has taken a lifetime of work to get to a place where I'd want her around that long. We are hopeful we won't kill each other in 24 hours! Don't get me wrong, we love each other and support each other, but there's been a lot of hurt over the years.
So after six years in recovery, making amends (on both our sides) for our part in what had become a constant bickering, and this years BC experience, I just thought inviting her over was the right thing to do. So to all of you who have shared about missing your moms, I'm taking the time to appreciate mine because of your reminders; I'll miss her when she's gone one day. Thanks ladies- for reminding me once again to value EVERY moment.0 -
Would be wonderful if we could all decide on a 'middle' place to meet up... I am excited for it.
Juneau... I went and bought some conditioner for my hair the other day. Boy it felt good. Enjoy! I think inviting your Mum over is the thing to do. I just skyped mine and would do anything for a mum hug again. And yes, remember, however much we want to strangle them at times (and them us I guess), we will really miss them when gone. Give her a big hug from me for producing such a beautiful daughter.
Hugs xx
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Ladies I'm there on the get together......Tazzy, got my beer mug ready🍻
Could the middle be Hawaii????......just a thought 👙👙👙0 -
A very happy holiday to all! We deserve it!
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Tazzy, I lost my mom in February 2005 .... I miss her everyday and really needed her this year. I do believe she was watching out for me.
Meet up in the middle ..... Sounds good but what is the middle? There is a Las Vegas thread but the timing is not good .... We could do a Chicago long weekend?
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Maybe a reunion could be planned for Vegas since we all sort of gambling anyhow.
Happy Festivus to all
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Love the idea of a Chicago weekend...
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Let's start to think it out after the new year ..... Anyone been there that can shed some light on what and where and when?
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I guess Hawaii is out????......lol
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As much as I would love to go to Hawaii, we might have a better chance off reunion of sorts some place a bit more central.
Have a wonderful day tomorrow ladies and enjoy family and friends.
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Scottie: guess Hawaii is in the middle for us West Coasters.... not so much for the Easterners... darn it. Yep, I will start warming the beer mug up
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I would not mind the Quebec Winter Carnival! Oh, wait, that's not central, but it would be fun.
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Oh but it is COLD .... And I live in Canada .. I was thinking Chicago in the spring or summer.
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How about nola, let's all plan our stages around the same time and we can meet up there...even though I don't know if that is my next step, it sure sounded good
I am still doing my homework.0 -
Hawaii ladies.....come on!!!!!!
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I am so for a reunion! Let's do it! I guess my suggestion for you to join me in Italy is out:) I am so not in for a place I have to wear a swim suit lol but a nice retreat some where would be lovely. There is a few specifically for survivors. I heard one in WI? Canda is also lovely!
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Oh yeah mcook, forgot about the bathing suit....ok Hawaii is out.....how about a retreat
in the mountains somewhere?0 -
My vacation this year is heading east to Prince Edward Island and Nova Scotia .. I can do a weekend to Chicago or something but .... Heading to the mountains would have to wait.
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No, but I would love Nova Scotia.
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So I take that as a yea, LOL! I was thinking if enough if us were interested, and could afford it, perhaps we can find somewhere to work with us on a group rate. Anywhere metropolitan in spring could get really pricey. Perhaps some of us can road trip and car pool too. Lets see what we can all come up with. Maybe we start our own, new annual event/retreat???
So moms in the living room and I am glad I invited her. We all watched Ted and laughed a lot.
So Merry Christmas ladies! Hard to believe its here already, and I times I couldn't imagine October finally arriving so I could finish chemo.0 -
Juneaubugg.....so happy you arewith your mother. Mine passed many years ago and I miss her everyday. I'm going to my cousin's for Xmas dinner nd she and her daughter have not spoken in a year....so sad.
Enjoy this time with your mother.....you don't want any regrets.
Wishing you and your family a peaceful, pain free, worry free holiday.0 -
Ditto Scottiee....my mom has been gone since 1986.....and this time of year is especially poignant. I'm all about making memories for my kids and grandkids since that is what they will eventually be left with. Hopefully, not for a long time.....but memories last forever.
Love the reunion idea. And Canada (Eastern) sounds good to me. As does anywhere mid-eastern US.
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I'm happy to just meet up with all you amazing gals ANYWHERE!!!!!!
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Chicago - Cubs baseball and ummm flourless chocolate cake at Bergoff's (sp?) oh and pork chops... (To hell with the diet) sounds good. New Orleans in the Spring would be good too. (Well it's sort of central!)
Meanwhile, I'm feeling like a trout today:
"Now all the trout travel," Cleav said. "But the Steelheads go the farthest. At one point in his life this big gray fish was swimming in the ocean."
"In the ocean?"
"Yes," Cleav told her. "It's the salt water that changes the Rainbow's
pretty colors to gray.""And his colors never come back?"
Cleav shook his head. "No, once he's been to the sea he's changed forever. The Steelhead can come back home here, stay for the rest of his days, and live among the other Rainbow trout, but he'll always
be different because of where he's been." Morsi, Pamela. Garters.0 -
Just saw this on another board. JAck and Jill Late Stage Cancer Foundation http://www.jaif.org This is a foundation that funds vacations for terminally ill and their families, children should be under 18 My kids are way too old, but I was thinking of Ramolis
Happy Holidays and many more
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