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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 15,711
    edited May 2013
    1. Cool
  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 245
    edited May 2013

    ChickaD - congrats to you and your daughter on her graduation!!

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 1,790
    edited May 2013

    Oh, forgot to mention...sent a PM to ShaneOak....hope she will drop by and say hello.



    Chevy.....so get you!!!! Grew up with a father like that...my mother, brother and I had to walk on egg shells a lot or just disappear.

  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 15,894
    edited May 2013

    Dana, hope you feel better, enjoy the graduation YEAH.

  • marywh
    marywh Member Posts: 1,433
    edited May 2013

    Well the day before Mothers day! What have we all got planned? My geuss is all my kids will be at my house for dinner, seeing as when they ask me to go out it usually means I have to pay for it. I think Id rather just cook here. Or rather dh will since hes in charge of the grill. ds#2 will be back from Fla. today, have to brave the traffic and pick him up in Charlotte at 5. Its been a nice quiet week, but I miss him. Hes a good kid. Never been any trouble, and even at 21 still calls and lets me know what hes doing. He'll make a fine navy man and signs the papers in August.

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,258
    edited May 2013

    Yes Scottieeeeee!  I didn't think I was the only one.... kind of sad. Calm  mornings and afternoons make up  for the shenanigans of Dr. Jekyl... or is it Mr. Hyde?   I just thank God for mornings....  They sort of erase the nights before.  Wink

    Maybe I should be thankful for THAT, and not worry about something I can't do anything about.....

  • Beatmon
    Beatmon Member Posts: 617
    edited May 2013

    Chevyboy: your post makes my heart so heavy. My brother does the same to his wife everyday. She will call me so upset in the evenings and then all is forgiven in the mornings. They have been together over 40 years. The things he goes off on are crazy...they don't even make sense. She is also a b/c survivor f over 20 years! Our parents did not drink and never had a cross word so he didn't learn his actions at home. We have to have a place in our hearts for them for what makes them drink to excess and the family life and fun that they miss out on due to their bad behavior. I wish u peace in the evenings and lots if good books. It breaks my heart to see my brother behave this way, and for you to have to go through this daily.

  • phgraham
    phgraham Member Posts: 909
    edited May 2013

    Shells, so sorry I disappeared last night. My tablet kept freezing AND I've lost the stupid stylus to type with. I just gave up in frustration. I hope you couldn't hear the swear words!



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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 15,711
    edited May 2013

    I agree I feel so bad whe I hear these type of things, I was with one but only 6 yrs. and I had enough.  I was to chicken to try to stick it out. I wanted to come home not to a WTF will happen when I walk in the door to calmness when I walked in my door. I never looked back.And I started enjoying things again. I give u credit for u'r patience in their problemed world, I didn't have the guts to stay in it to see if it would get better-it might have gotten better but I just didn't have the I can do this attitude, I'm a wimp. LOL

    So tomorrows Mother's day, I miss my mommy.I was so blessed with my parents and whe I was young didn't realize it, I thought all parents where like that. Then I learned.

  • marywh
    marywh Member Posts: 1,433
    edited May 2013

    I miss my mom too. She died last Feb., so last year I was still kind of numb. I miss her this year. She was 87 when she died and such a trooper. We would spend mothers day with her at her beach house and I miss it so much.

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    OMG you guys have been busy again,.....

    ducky and I live 20 min from each other....

    I have to read.....but of course if was the 2 days after chemo sick yesterday......keep talking myself out of it....The Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure is tomorrow, mother's day....not sure if walking but going at 5am

    let me read the next 5 pages and then comment if I have anything to say.....

    have a good saturday ladies....now I will STFU!!!

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    Shell sure hope you are feeling better

    Shiela you are NOT a nutcase, I love you.....

    Ducky I was up also but didn't get on the puter, will next time....

    back to read the next page and comment, wish I could rememeber what I wanted to say at the end....oh and put more purple on my hair....I love it....kids still hate it....will take a pix when it is done...

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 971
    edited May 2013

    My Dearest Miss Chevy.......I can only say I feel your pain....I was married for almost 20 years to a drinker...he was a good man...drinking never interfered with work...but each year the drinking increased....your post so screamed a loud visual for me it was scary....I made vows and honored them...but the last 10 years were miserable for me...he just did not grow up....my marriage ended in divorce....I strangely got lucky...he fell in love with a woman from MN while working up there...thanks to my legal background I got divorced fast and he left me basically everthing...it was devastating at the time....but looking back it was the best thing that could of ever happened to me...I met the love of my life very unexpectedly and have the life I deserve with a truly remarkable man now. I send your strength and tolerance as I know some days are more trying than others...so I will STFU now and just send you hugs.....♥

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    Ah Shell we need to get in trouble to keep it interesting but NOT solitary.....who would I talk to....

    Wifley duties, Chevy, better you than me!!! DUCKY I DID!!

    Phyllis me....for as long as it works then onto another one!!! am on taxotere....you are right....change the name....hhhhhmmmm until I change it to blue or pink, omg never pink!!!

    I know Mary they seem to be up All friggin night...

    I agreee Cam....I know one of my labs knows something is going on he sleeps in my room everynight....I also wish we lived closer or we went to some kind of retreat or conference, unfortunately I live on SSD and that is it, no pension or anything, and am a single parent to the remaining children which are those 19 year old twin boys....

    Sas it was a car and the purple hair is just cause I am 59 and can, lol...I want to read that book, someone wrote a book about that cat.

    welcome Zeph

  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 1,667
    edited May 2013

    Blondie, the book is titled, "Making Rounds with Oscar: The Extraordinary Gift of an Ordinary Cat" by David Dosa.  It's a very good book.  I highly recommend it.  

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    No Dana.....when you are stage 4 it is automatic....don't know anything other than that....

    Sas, I will stay as blondie for now and oh the BBL is be back later, too funny, but glad you are keeping track of it...

    me and my purple hair....

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    wow that is big, sorry

    welcome savgirl

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 971
    edited May 2013

    Love the purple

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2013

    Dana hope you had a good time at graduation.....without pain

    So sorry Chevy but it is so stressful living like that...hang in there you need a vacation...

    Misquitoes will get cancer if they bit me, so go ahead, lol

    ok 1 more page....did ya like my purple hair....lol....

    thanks for the book title, will definately get it.....and sorry about the pix it is way too big!!

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 971
    edited May 2013

    Miss Sassy......you totally ROCK...thanks for taking ALL the time today for me ♥

  • phgraham
    phgraham Member Posts: 909
    edited May 2013

    Blondie, you're beautiful in purple!



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  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 15,894
    edited May 2013

    Blondie, Good for you, I'll change the BBl, so many nicknames LOL. Shells suggested starting to put in where people are in treatment, Chemo now for you?

    Dana it was fun. You need to tell everyone how your in on groundbreaking surgery, very cool. have fun at graduation

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited May 2013

    Time for me to check in with my latest project.

    hi everyone...read all the posts i missed but forgot everything.what else is new

    Thanks to SAS i have been on line checkin all my household products.shit and grrrrrrrrrrrr.gotta start from scratch with everything except the All pods,woolite,and the color catcher for mixed colored clothes...even my liquid soap i use on my dishes have all kinds of perfumes.double shit.The lavender is the culprit so far but im still itchy and getting red patches....triple shit.

    thats my rant for the day....gotta go pack andkeep reading.

    hugggs everyone princess kantalope

    ps.any advice would be appreciated.

  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 245
    edited May 2013

    Thanks, Blondie! Love, love, love the purple!!

  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 15,711
    edited May 2013

    Blondie I just love it, that's the shade I want--- it's perfect. And u'r beautiful eyes oh wow--it actually brings u'r color of eyes out too.

    Dana are u home yet from the graduation or have u gone yet? Or am I totally confused?

    Boy this thread goes fast, it started out steady and now it's ripping the pages off. Wow can't keep up.

















    dana

  • gmafoley
    gmafoley Member Posts: 5,978
    edited May 2013

    Blondie we will match next week when I get my purple glasses. Having issues with my eyes and had to get new lenses.

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,932
    edited May 2013

    I like the purple. I've always wanted to put blue on mine. Not the stuff that makes it look white, maybe royal blue.

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 971
    edited May 2013

    All graduated....special education/intervention specialist degree.....YAY!



    Thanks to Miss Sas...I realized I am kinda special...no not "special"..lol....my surgery 3ish weeks ago was kinda different than most.....I had a double mastectomy (original size DD) with immediate reconstruction with my own tissue from stomach (and some breast tissue from prophyalactic right non-cancerous breast tissue tested during surgery) ...NO TE's as I had enough of my own skin to immedistely reconstruct... I also have NO drains either... surgery was about 5-6 hours. This surgery is about 2 months new at Cleveland Clinic. I was a good candidate due to my sexy young age and effervescent (sp?) personality...lol ...now a size B-C or so...still swollen so not quite sure yet!

  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 1,667
    edited May 2013

    Blondie, love the hair.  You rock and good for you for doing it!

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited May 2013

    Chicka----even tho i bragggg about the DD they are a real pain in the ass.glad you went down.....my GD,DD and I all have them and they are not happy with it either.When my DD was in Jr.Highschool and one teacher kept lookin at her boobs (big mouth) she said to him in a very low voice my nipples dont talk)

    You are beautiful.

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