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Swgee - I'm with you too! We were sad when our kids moved out too BUT we weren't as excited when they wanted to come back- just a little perspective. Enjoy the alone time.
My appts over. The donut was great. Going home to bake for tomorrow's Pocket Party. Making Potato Chip cookies - no redeeming ingredients but loved by all. Walking on the treadmill after that..,0 -
Hi Ladies- I know I haven't posted much but I do get on a read everyone's post!
I am doing pretty good, have some bad days and good days mentally. My friend who was diagnosed that same time I was with lung cancer was put into hospice yesterday and that has hit me pretty hard. He and I have supported each other through our journeys. We went to high school together so also have a lot of the same friends. I don't know if he will come home but his wife needed some help with him and was getting pretty worn out and was scared that he would not get the best care at home right now. I am having a really rough time with this right now and not sure if I feel some sort of guilt or just scares the hell out of me. I don't mean to sound selfish because I am praying for him and sad that he is not doing well but it also reminds me that life is so precious and that I need to remember this and not let other small things bother me and live for today.
I hope all of you are doing good and thinking about you!
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Hugs Michelle!!! Sending prayers for your friend and his family.
I, too, don't post as much but I try to read everything and everyone is always in my heart and thought of daily!!! Love you guys o much!!!
Has anyone heard fom stride? If your reading along as well stride, sending lots of love and strength your way!!!!
I know a lot of you have posted about lost "mojo". Well, I guess I found everyone's. problem is DH (SFB) rejects me. I'm so depressed and hurt he says he loves me and still sees me as beautiful blah blah blah but he won't touch me. I'm 43 he's 46. Too young to be celibate. I was so afraid of this was going to happen, afraid that my scars would repulse him. He doesn't understand how hurt I am and we fight all the time. We go months with any physical contact in THAT way. I've asked for a divorce but he won't give me one. I've got no where to go and he won't leave. I'm so hurt and sad, I'm in tears all the time.
Thanks for letting me get it out. I haven't told anyone any of this.0 -
nopink: welcome - bestest bunch of ladies here you'll ever want to find.
Michelle: hugs
Stride: hugs
Everyone - hugs
Happy hump day xxxxx
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ooops. forgot to say - jumping in pockets. Anyone can jump in mine for tomorrow too. 3 monthly check-in. If only it burnt real calories and not virtual ones - I'd be a size 6
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Luanne, so sorry to hear what's been going on with you. This is so heartbreaking. Have you guys had some counselling at all? He seems like a good guy who really wants to be with you. Is he really rejecting you, or is it your subjective perception because you feel so hurt? Maybe he just needs more time? It is a tough, tough road to travel, and bc takes a huge toll on our partners. They also need time to heal, and process what happened. I think they often don't know how to handle the new people that we have become, and men notoriously struggle to express their feelings in words. So their feelings come out in other ways. My DH also had a hard time to get back to normal relations. I felt ready for a long time before he did, but let him be, and assured him that it was fine. He somehow had to make sure for himself in his own way that I was physically and mentally okay, and it took a long time. That was okay with me. His behaviour towards me was unchanged, and just as loving as before if not more, so I knew he would come around eventually. Bc is a unique disease, it changes our perspectives, whether we like it or not, and it puts lots of strain on our marriages. Hope you guys can come to some sort of an agreement. To me it sounds as if there is good reason to think that this can be turned around, and patience is needed. Don't make rash decisions that you will regret later. Big hugs to you!!!
Stride, always thinking of you, and hoping you are doing okay under the circumstances.
Mcook, big hugs to you too!
My kids were home for the Labour Day weekend. So lovely to have them, but so tired when they left on Monday. Saw DD for the first time since the news of her pregnancy. They are so happy, so in love - oh, to be that young again! Spoiled them rotten, and sent them on their way with a cooler filled with food, and fish that they had caught. There is a time to have them in your home as children, but there is a time when they have to move out into the world, and do their own thing. Always sad to see them go, but at the same time relieved to catch my breath again . . . lol.
Sorry for the novel I have written, girls!
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Luanne....you brought tears to my eyes. I so sorry this is happening to you. You are an amazing beautiful woman, love you to death. You're right....too young to be celibate .
Luanne, would he consider counseling, if not, go by yourself for some help. If you need to rant and rave some more ...PM me anytime. I will PM you my phone number if you need to talk.......❤
Tomorrow is my six monthly check up with the oncologist.....looking for company....anybody in?????
Sheila.....congrats on your good news girl....jello shooters all round....💃0 -
Shianne I think that liefie had a terrific response ...
Now I have to say that after sharing a room with you and Christine while in Chicago and Iowa and seeing you with very little on .... You are very beautiful and have a terrific figure and I don't think he is turned off or repulsed ....
you guys need to talk it out .... Maybe he is scared.
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Liefie....what great advice.:).... your not on ur own luanne...I can count the number of times my hubby and I have been close in the last 24months on one hand......mind you I count it as a blessing as by the time I get to bed Im knackered!! Although i know I have to get that side back on track.......someday! I dont mind being celibate...which thinking about it now seems wrong!
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Well it sure sounds like we all need a big group hug! (((((HUGS)))))
Luanne, I know here we have access to a sex therapist through the cancer center. A friend of mine has gone to her group and said it was wonderful to be able to talk openly and know she wasnt alone. Maybe they have something up north like that.
Welcome Nopink, great group to get to know here.
Mcook, sorry to hear about your friend. Sounds like you are keeping things in the right perspective as hard as it may be. Hope to get to see you at the Renaissance Festival on 9/14.
Tazzy, in your pockets tomorrow.
Swgee, how did things go? Need to get out of your pockets the Jello is getting to me.
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Mcook big hugs, and jumping in your pockets Tazzy and anyone else who needs it.:) xx
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Tazzy, I'm in your pockets tomorrow!
My mammogram appt. went just fine today. I took a pain pill and it was just like any other mammogram. They really can see through most of that tissue. They'll just check to make sure the scar tissue/surgery site is improving over time. (I go back every 6 months.) They took five pics. None had to be repeated, thankfully. The radiologist said they look good! The nurse practitioner said my cough was also due to radiation and my lungs are clear. She said it will eventually go away. Yaaaaaaaaay!!
Luanne sweetie, I'm so sorry your hubby is backing away. I agree with Liefie, try some counseling. Either together, or separate, maybe both. (If he doesn't i may have to come to Canada and kick some ass!) There is such a learning curve with this disease, so much happening all at once, everyone's world turned upside down. I hope he gives it a chance! (((Prayers and Hugs))). Sheila💗0 -
Thanks Scottie! In your pockets tomorrow as well! (With organic wine:))
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Swgee - happy dance for your appt. such a relief when they are over. I'm up for upcoming Pocket Parties! I really did only get called back, the one I went alone without you all. I'm in with Banana Nut muffins - they will be great with organic wine, right.
Tomorrow I get a Shingles shot. My DH is getting one too. I forgot to ask how much they cost. Guess we will find out tomorrow.
Luanne - so sorry you have to go through what you mentioned. I ditto everyone else. In the States - they are always showing guys on TV. It turns out they have Low T, they talk to their Doctor and the problem is resolved. Maybe it's him and not you. We all know you are perfect. If nothing else - hope I made you smile. Don't make any rash decisions. I'm a lot older but things tend to resolve themselves. Guy think differently than we do. I'd make a lousy therapist but I feel for you and your dilemma.0 -
What's with the organic wine ladies?????? What, no jello shooters..😱
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Pocket party Saturday ladies .... I am doing a 5 km walk for breast cancer research at my local cancer centre ..... Not looking for sponsors ... Just want my survivor sisters with me while I walk ...0 -
Liefie: great response for Luanne. Hang in there, dear. It will get better and I think the couselling is a great idea. Hugs to you both!
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JoAnne - count me in. I've never been in a marathon before!
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Reading along and sending hugs. Luanne, be gentle on yourself, everyone's world gets turned topsy turvy and finding equilibrium again takes time..
Have been hanging in while having such sore glands and sore throat Mon and Tues with the fun addition of fever yest. Today with holidays beginning and no time to go later, went to urgent care down here to be told that I was 10th person in today with same symptoms. Now on amoxicillian and wanting ice cream by the hour as ot cools the throat
such a pain with each swallow. Have to say that it is soo sweet of dear dad, trying to take care of me, yet I don't want him near me to make sure he does not catch this bug. At, 85, he is always cool, so has his apt pretty warm. I have the ceiling fan in the room i sleep on high, he turns it off and wants me to get under blankets. I tell him I have fever and am a bit warm, so he then says to turn up the AC in apt and he will put on a coat....gotta love him I feel such role reversal. While I so miss my hubby and many days are a bit redundant, I do realize how special this time with dear ol dad is. So, for now I'll throw up a rope and hang just outside your pockets so as to keep my germs to myself. 0 -
Aruba, you are very right ...how special the time is .....
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Thanks ladies, for listening and supporting. He won't do counselling but I did manage to get him to agree to see his dr. Believe I never thought of low T! He is in that age group for "male menopause" and I've been joking about him either in 4 gear or asleep in the reclined for months. I should make a note of all the symptoms he has so he can give it to his dr lol. And shiela, come up to Canada and kick some ass, I'd love to see you again!!!! Just kidding but I really do miss you!!
Aimee, I see my MO next week I will ask about that. Even if he won't go it may help me.
Joanne I love the new avatar, you look great!!!
In pockets where needed and eagerly waiting to hear the results for everyone.
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Hi all. Nopinkforme... WELCOME!
Luanne: HUGS, hugs AND MORE HUGS! Liefie responded well, as always, with wisdom and love.
I'm currently laying on a gurney in the ambulatory surgery room waiting to go in for my left breast lift. Can't believe it's here already! Woke up at FIVE for one last run on the treadmill. It will be off limits for a few weeks.
Metabolic dr put me on a no carb no suger diet last Monday following the results of my glucose testing. I've been cranky while detoxing, but I'll do anything to lose this estrogen producing belly fat!
Mcook; sorry to hear the your friend isn't doing well. This fucking disease sucks!
I know I missed some... Oh! Aruba tea with honey. Get better soon!
Ok. Gotta go. They're coming to take me away.... (Who who hee Hee... To the funny farm)0 -
Dear Aruba, I hope you recover from this bug quickly. Your Dad sounds like such a sweetie!! I'm sure he is loving taking care of you as you've been doing for him! When my mom was in her assisted living apartment with COPD I went to visit as much as possible. I hated being in Wisconsin, it felt like a world away. (She was in Ohio) Even though three of my sisters are/were still in Ohio and I knew she was well taken care of, I was doing it for myself as much as I did it for her. She died in 2007, and I still cherish my visits with her. I'm so glad you're able to spend this time with your Dad....enjoy!
In your pocket Juneau!! Good luck with the lift!
Joanne, I've never been in a marathon, either!! Add me to your pocket and let us know how it goes!
Love and Hugs to all!!💗0 -
Juneau, saying a prayer at shul for you today and all my sisters in need. Rest easy, you are gonna be our cover girl 😊
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Luanne: hugs, hugs and more hugs xxxx Not sure how I missed your original post - DOH !
Aruba: get well soon. take care of you too.
juneau: in pockets.
OK off now - chat laters xxxxx
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Ooooh darlin's thanks a million for the happy birthday's & big happy birthdays to everyone i missed
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Hello all my sisters! I've been lurking always..and do ya know my spirit is always in each of your pockets! I've been so insanely busy...i believe in his so i say God & skinny fiber have me my life back (& more) busier than I've ever been in my life! I love working with & helping others with healthier eating changes thru that weight loss support group on face book..most of you know i take & am distributor of skinny fiber..it's a huge part of my life and this belly is shrinking slowly but surely..the biggest thing i hated with no breasts (&a giant huge ugly scar) was how my belly was even bigger looking without my fakers on...no I'm not gonna lol...lol. I've gotten so much more energy back but only while I'm taking this product..i have so Sooooo many ailments so it helps me and this is not about trying to get anyone to try etc..it's just about me sweethearts.
Well since chemo my heart went pretty wonky with a-fibs, rapid hb & high bp. Was put on meds to reduce all that..finally was helping whew but the afibs are still strong, Also the esophageal spasms got pretty bad..mimics angina but did get some angina..so tests etc..23rd had Angiogram..turned out to be right main artery 90% blocked!! Angio plasy & extra long stent were put in. The week prior my younger DB had HA emergency Angio with 2 stents..his cholesterol was IP & on meds..mines always great...go figure. All Dr's said wow amazing you didn't have a HA too Cher..Zoweee! I'm pretty lucky with all things considering!
So i read on here all the time how everyone gets followups & scans & checks yet my bff & I don't...i don't get it. No one had checked my chest since last Oct & June was the big C. So now i have the lumps..long & 1 smaller on other side in my mid abdomen. About June i noticed a difference on the skin..then within a short period they grew.Dr said..Ooooh lipoma..i said nope no way..they're growing too fast! Geesh hello? Now Dr says lets get this heart stuff dealt with first..he knows I'm freaking! Also had biopsy on arm cuz was like skin cancer last year..Ooooh brother i tell ya my story to long lol..had to see cardiologist yesterday as plavix is giving so many SE's..Ooooh well but i showed him the lumps another one has grown that i hadn't mentioned..so hmmm. Lipoma's do not grow quickly..trying to just be ok about it.
Great news..going on my I SURVIVED Alaskan cruise with my DF who looked after me so much thru all this. So excited..
Shianne ..thinking of you & your DH. Went thru similar thing many moons ago & sure understand the feelings. Hope things get better honey! I'm with y'all for the cure walk in spirit & thank you for doing that..i can't walk much now (omg due to vascular problem too now) loved doing it last year! For all who are going for treatments, surgeries and followups..am in your pockets! Fir everyone one else..of course I'm with ya too..your all in my heart & always will be! This group & the others here got me thru a rough time! Loads of love & I'll wave to y'all from the deck on Saturday when were at sea...xox0 -
Cher.....enjoy that cruise, you sure deserve it.
Aruba.....yes, take care of you too.
Jo, you know I'm there on Saturday.....😄
Had my six month check up with the Onc today. Felt me all over (my bi-annual thrill.....I take what I can get at my age...ha ha ha ). asked me a few questions and said "see you in six months"....January will be my second mammo since dx....how time flies really.
Jo and Inwere discussing our emotional state and we both agreed that emotionally we felt better. However, for me, physically the longer I'm on Letrozole the more aches and pains and stiffness and fatigue I seem to be getting...😩 But they are all doable and I'm here alive working on enjoying every minute.
PS....Cher....sorry....happy birthday to you.0 -
Great news scottiee...soooo happy for you.:). Happy Birthday Cher...enjoy your hols. Hope all went well Janeau. X
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Aruba - hope you and Dad are both improving. Happy New Year.
Cher - a very Happy Birthday!
Juneau - can't believe you were writing on a gurney. Keep us posted on your surgery
Scottie - good news, happy dance time.
My Doctors office called with results from my bone density scan. Osteopenia is worse. Now I'm to take 1500 calcium and 1000 vitamin D. Pretty soon I will be buying sensible shoes, hate to break anything. That was my first thought.
Gentle Hugs all around.
Luanne - glad you didn't laugh at me. Life is better shared.0
